Hi loves,
My inconsistency in posting is quiet apparent. Loads have been going in on my personal life. I fell to the bottom of the pit and have somehow managed to pick myself out of it. I have learnt and grown loads and have tons to share with you all. But I am not there yet. I need to solve some more riddles and life truths and I will divulge it all. So hang on tight.
And today is Halloween – one of my fave non-traditional Holiday. I almost thought I’d miss it cause I am injured again womp womp. A jacked up toe and lower back. But here we are! Each year I pick a new super hero to be. And Captain America has made several comebacks in different styles. This struck such an underlining issue with me where I always had male role models growing up. I was raised with the hypocrisy in society where males get the freedom, they are the stronger sex, they are the ones who are good at math, who can drive better, who are smarter. So anytime I did something spectacular I was told I am more like a boy – and I wanted to be more and more like them. I bought into it so much that I didn’t realize what legacy was I leaving behind for the little girls watching me? I want girls and women to understand that they are enough, that traits are not male or female (well I get psychology and biology) but they are human. Anyone can be good at anything. A girl can be a fighter, a savior and a better driver plus so much more.
The biggest effect of this changed washed over me when I saw wonder woman in the theaters. I cried at the end of the movie because while I looked for something similar to me everywhere else – there was a figure quiet like mine that I overlooked for so long! She is strong, smart, empathetic, confused about good and evil in humans – alot of her resonated with me. I know its cheesy for me to dress up as her this Halloween (because everyone girls go to halloween outfit) but its not just any costume but an actual believe and faith for me. Just like I embodied Captain America with his traits that matched mine. I now embody wonder woman…..a better match for a strong female who wants to change the world one person at a time.
Some of the facts that I have grown into this year:
- We should stop caring about what others think – this is easier said than done but I have found better educated tools such as meditations. Not the typical “let me sit down and be stress free”. This is really the traditional form of meditation that teaches you to observe your thoughts and not become a part of them, not believe just anything that pops up in your head. Took some practice and I will surely share the details with you in the future post.
- Books are our bestfriends – growing up I read alot but mostly novels. They took me to worlds I’d never visit or know and gave me friends that I didn’t have. But I realized in the last few years that self-help, knowledgeable books can change your reality – so you won’t have to escape to a different world.
- Be you – be honest no matter what the fear and consequences. You can always sleep easy knowing you were your true self and someone doesn’t like you then that is on them. I was always this person but certain incidents made my faith firmer in this. When someone lies – they have to spent much more time and energy in keeping up with the lies. Eventually you lose respect for them once you find out the truth. It is one thing if they confessed and you could forgive. But if you catch them in the act? Trust is a whole another thing to rebuild.
- On the same realm, pushing people’s buttons and playing games with them will only get you so close, it will build a false reality that will eventually crumble leaving everything in a rubble. Building trust and relationship by showing your stories, scars, fears and whatever else makes you – you is what builds a strong foundation of a relationship.
- Taking care of yourself is just as important as taking care of others and looking out for their comfort. Take time alone, grow to love yourself (more on how later) and take time to do things you enjoy even if no one wants to come along.
There is more….alot more…but for now Happy Halloween!
